Relationship Repair
- Is your relationship in moderate to severe crisis?
- Living together but feeling lonelier and more resentful as time goes on?
- Have poor communication and unresolved conflicts been terrorizing your marriage?
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“A critical moment for decisive action.”
meet bryan
I am an advocate for couples in crisis.
I have developed a unique, proven method that helps couples get on exactly the same page with one another without spending months or years in counseling and exposing them to unproductive fights that leave them more tired and exhausted.
Learn how I can help you and your partner break out of your cycle of resentment and restore trust, respect, and intimacy in your relationship!
The old saying that a good relationship takes work couldn’t be truer than it is today. Almost 40 percent of marriages end in divorce. And about half of those who remain married report experiencing a “loveless marriage,” staying together only for the sake of the kids or security! But unmarried couples fare no better in making their relationship last. The sad fact is: Relationships are more fragile than ever.
Add to that the incredible amount of challenges that constantly threaten your relationship from all sides–from external stresses of life, stresses at work, stresses of parenting, financial burdens, drama with the in-laws, temptations to get your needs met elsewhere, all the way down to even minor things like ongoing disagreement about who’s turn it is to do the dishes!
When there are enough of these “little” problems left unresolved and backlogged, you end up in a perfect storm–where your relationship runs high on resentment, low on grace, with hair-trigger arguments, or worse, no arguments at all! And now you’re on your way to becoming a statistic.
Given the incredibly low survival rate of marriages, what chance do we have of beating the odds and sustaining the love you both felt in the beginning?
The Really Good News: Love Is Not Just a Feeling; It’s an Ability
And of all the abilities you must have in your marriage toolbox, the single most important skill you must have is how to fight well!
Surprised? Well, it shouldn’t. Because what is 100% guaranteed is that you and your partner will fight. So conflict isn’t something you can avoid or afford to be bad at. If you love your partner, you must learn to initiate tough conversations with him or her and be excellent at resolving conflicts, both respectfully and productively! After all, what good is all the love if we’re so bad at conflicts, right?
The #1 Thing Couples Therapy Should Teach You
Couples who seek couples therapy or marriage counseling are those who have run out of options trying to resolve the conflicts on their own. Depending on the relationship expert you choose, couples therapy or marriage counseling can be an excellent choice for couples who:
- Deal with communication failures and don’t know how to “fight well”
- Have frequents arguments about “little things,” like death by a thousand cuts
- Have problems trusting one another
- Feel lonely and disconnected from their partner
- Fear they will have to separate if something doesn’t change
It all really boils down to one thing. If there’s anything that couples therapy or marriage counseling should teach you, it’s how to handle conflicts like pros.
Limits of Traditional Couples Therapy & Marriage Counseling
Unfortunately, couples therapy has earned a reputation for requiring many months or even years to complete and often exposing couples to a lot of painful and unproductive fighting along the way, which isn’t too far from the truth in some of the more common approaches in couples therapy and marriage counseling.
Kairos Coaching: Couples Therapy Reimagined
Kairos uses a proven method to help couples break out of unhealthy cycles of resentment and nurture a new level of trust, reveal newfound respect for one another, and revive their intimacy. Think of it as couples therapy supercharged and made safe, fast, and structured so that we can achieve best outcomes, without doing unnecessary damage along the way!
You will learn strategies on…
- How to discover the true roots of problems in the relationship
- How to negotiate positive boundaries with each other
- How to forgive and trust your partner after a major breach (e.g., infidelity, lying, addiction)
- How to understand personality differences and learn how you come across to others
- How to be better listeners and communicators in the partnership
Schedule a Free Consultation
Not sure about couples therapy or marriage counseling? At Kairos, we make sure every couple who comes to us is a good fit for our approach before we commit to a coaching process. Remember: The most successful couples are those who are open to learning and have a deep desire to grow. Reach out to schedule a free consultation to determine if you qualify on becoming a Kairos couple!
What Couples Are Saying
Meeting with him is the best investment I have ever made in myself
I began my time with Bryan feeling really heavy and at one of the hardest times in my life. Not only did I find new and lasting sources of happiness through more wholesome relationships, as a coach, Bryan is inquisitive, detailed, and compassionate. As a person, he is kind, funny, and makes any difficult conversation comfortable and enjoyable. He has such a different and refreshing perspective. I have found so much peace and understanding through my conversations with him; I always end our time feeling lighter and encouraged.
Bryan has been a saving grace for my husband and I
We've been blown away by how personable, approachable, genuine, and skillful he is. The way he can mediate and really get down to the root of issues is unlike anything I've seen before. Bryan has so much patience and can always find the right words to keep us progressing. And the biggest thing that sets him apart, I believe, is the fact that he truly genuinely cares. My husband was not open to counseling prior to meeting with Bryan, but now he sees the value in meeting with him and the value it adds to our marriage.
It has brought back a passion and love we thought was long gone
Bryan is an amazing human. He took my husband and I from a place of hopelessness and separation, to a place of understanding and hopefulness. We thought we had done all we could to make it work and as a last ditch effort, contacted Bryan. My husband and I learned how to love again, how to forgive, how to work through issues, how to communicate with love and compassion, & how to grow, together. It has truly been an amazing experience. He has saved our marriage and love but most importantly, our family and our children's future. We are forever thankful for him and what he has done.
Miracles happen!!!
I can attest that two of his exercises alone have changed the direction of my life/relationships, and if I knew it earlier I would've honestly saved so much heartache. Honestly, I am still in shock that I was able to put to rest some of my deepest, core hurts and experience a peace/clarity that I haven't for years, probably decades. For that, I cannot put a price on what I learned. I highly recommend anyone from all walks of life to go to Bryan!
He's a blessing in disguise and best investment I've ever made
My relationship struggled for more than a year of constant pattern of arguments, pain and a lot of emotional exhaustion. Seeing two different therapists didn't make a lot of difference and I felt really hopeless and I knew I was going to lose the man I love. Bryan has brought a significant impact to my relationship and to my mental health in just a short amount of time. Not only did he save our relationship but he’s also helping me overcome and deal with my own past. I can't imagine seeing anyone else!
Bryan is easily the most uplifting person
He demonstrates the understanding and patience needed in a coach that will help move you forward. He is the compassionate person who will listen to you as you unpack the messy stuff of being human and he dropped some valuable gems on setting boundaries and improving communication.
You can trust this expert!
Bryan is not only a great marriage counselor and a life coach but also an amazing human! He listens very patiently and gives the most practical and actionable feedback. I highly recommend connecting with Bryan instead of self-help books or random online reading.
I would love to bring all my couple friends to him!!
Bryan is a gentle, witty, strategic, experienced, and patient relationship coach. He worked with both my husband and I and showed us many perspectives/methods to work with our issues. He's a bright and positive soul, and we can't love him more. A year later my husband and I still practice his methods when we encounter any issues, in fact, we rarely argue as time goes. If you are not so sure, give Bryan a try and you will see the brighter side of life! I wasn't a believer and Bryan showed me and saved me! Thank you so much, Bryan!! We miss you!
Client stories
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