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Which is Right for Us: Individual or Couples Therapy?

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Navigating the ups and downs of relationships often leaves us at a crossroads, pondering whether to seek help and where to find it. When you find yourself asking this question, the options generally narrow down to individual or couples therapy. At Kairos, we aim to guide you through this essential decision with the nuanced understanding it requires.

The Skills-Based Environment of Couples Therapy

Couples therapy or coaching is not just a venue for airing grievances; it’s primarily a skills-based environment. Here, you and your partner can learn new tools to resolve conflicts, communicate more effectively, and deepen your understanding of each other. For the majority of couples, acquiring these skills is often enough to resolve most, if not all, of their issues. Couples therapy can be transformative, shifting your relationship from a place of tension and misunderstanding to one of mutual respect and love.

When Individual Therapy Makes Sense

Although couples therapy can significantly improve most relationships by instilling new skills, there are times when individual therapy becomes crucial. When one of the partners is grappling with issues like depression, anxiety, or unresolved traumas, these concerns need individual attention first. Often, you need to heal yourself to be an effective partner in healing your relationship.

When challenges extend beyond what skills training in couples therapy can address, individual counseling can offer a more targeted form of therapy. Here you can explore personal issues deeply, without the immediate influence or presence of your partner.

When to Choose Couples Therapy

If both partners recognize that their struggles stem from relationship dynamics—such as communication issues, trust breakdown, or ongoing conflicts—couples therapy is generally the more effective route. With commitment from both sides, couples therapy or marriage counseling can teach you how to navigate your relationship’s complexities with love and respect.

Why Not Both?

Individual and couples therapy can indeed complement each other. In complex situations, therapists often recommend a mixed approach, providing a comprehensive avenue for healing both personal and relationship issues.

Factors to Consider

Therapist Expertise

Different therapists specialize in individual and couples therapy, so it’s essential to select a professional who is an expert in the service you require.

Financial and Time Commitment

Both therapy forms require distinct levels of financial and time investment, making it a factor worth considering while making your choice.

Willingness of Both Partners

For couples therapy to be effective, both partners should be willing and committed. Otherwise, individual therapy may be the more feasible option.


Choosing between individual and couples therapy depends on the nature of the challenges you’re facing and what you aim to achieve through therapy. At Kairos, we’re here to help you make the right choice for a healthier, happier relationship and life.

If you’re still uncertain about what form of therapy is most suitable for you or your relationship, don’t hesitate to contact us or schedule a free consultation. We’re committed to helping you navigate your therapeutic journey.


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